Parenting

Tips and tricks to handle your child when they misbehave

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Have you ever been yelled at, screamed at, punched, or kicked by a child? I have! Have you gotten the awful  “I hate you” while they're kicking you? It's exhausting, infuriating and sometimes even painful. So as a parent, how do you find any empathy with a child who acts that way? It's quite simple. 

Understand that this is the only way your child knows how to communicate. Think about it: as adults, we have had years of training to be able to articulate our feelings in a calm manner even if we're upset (and many of us still aren't there yet). I'm sure many of us have acted in ways we wouldn't want our own children to act. Yet, we expect our little people to be perfect at clearly communicating their needs. Cmon...when you say it out loud it sounds ridiculous, right? There is no way you can expect a tiny person with only a few years of life behind them to do it better than adults. 

So the next time your little one screams hideous things at you, remember he's just tying to explain his feelings. Give him the tools to explain and identify what he is feeling. Even better, next time you are mad as hell at them, model exactly the way you would want to be treated. Don't yell or scream. That just reiterates that this is effective communication. And don't take it so personally, they don't really know how to say in a calm voice: "Mommy, you hurt my feelings. I wasn't finished at my play date. Making me leave made me feel insignificant!" Yeah right, call me when your child says that and you can start hosting some of my webinars :) 

Be kind to the little ones, they are just trying to figure out what works, just like we are. 

Let me know what you do when your child misbehaves. Until then..

Happy Parenting!

Elise

Homework Tips

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We all struggle to get kids to do anything after a long day at school. The last thing they want to do is homework or chores. Deciding if your child needs a break is very important. Some kids can come home and go straight to work, while others need some downtime. However, there is one rule I keep in place no matter what.

All electronics must be checked into the "electronic basket." Downtime should not involve electronics. Running around and playing or hanging around with friends and siblings can also be relaxing. Remember the old days when we used to do that? Let them do anything except use their iPads, phones or computer. Essentially, it can’t involve staring at a screen.

Why? Because it is the best incentive your child can have to comply with your requests. So, as the school year starts bring this new routine into action. Good luck and happy parenting.

Happy Parenting!
Elise